I love Kurt.
Love, love, love Kurt.
I started watching Glee because I related so much to Kurt.
I am getting fed up with the writer’s gymnastics to make sure that no matter what happens, Kurt is never in the wrong. Even when he is in the wrong.
Let’s face it; everyone in Glee does stupid, mean, and occasionally awful things. Mercedes is to blame for occasionally going off the wall into diva town and Tina’s apparently leaning the same way. Artie is to blame for misogyny, Puck and Santana are to blame for bullying. Finn is to blame for homophobia, constant cheating, and overall idiocy. Blaine is to blame for being attention seeking and overreacting to really weird things. Rachel is to blame for sending girls to crack houses and pretty much every crazy thing she’s done in the search for stardom. Quinn is to blame for everything she does wrong (including, apparently, getting into Yale?).
The point is everyone does things they shouldn’t. But for everyone else, they get called out on it (in canon or fanon) people decide whether they like the character despite this oversight or new found flaw, and we move on.
But not Kurt.
Somehow the instant Kurt does, says, or thinks anything wrong, the universe (by which I mean the writers) conspires to make absolutely sure that he’s only half-wrong or whoever he’s wronged reacts so disproportionately to the slight that Kurt comes out smelling like daisies anyway.
How can I say this? Let’s look at the evidence.
1. Kurt’s harassment of Finn - I’ve been a teenager dealing with my first crush. I completely understand hanging around someone all the time and even occasionally, scheming to get their attention. But let’s get something clear; pursuing someone after they tell you they aren’t interested is harassment. The show makes an attempt to show that Kurt may have gone too far, which was great. But only after Finn flies off the handle and uses a homophobic slur. I actually didn’t have a huge problem with this, since I really related to that story line and my first crush ended in a similar way. But it doesn’t change the fact that Kurt was instantly able to make the shift between someone who had good intentions but did the wrong thing to a victim, sitting tall while scolding, “I thought you were different” and it’s up to Finn to grovel for forgiveness.
2. Kurt’s biphobia - I relate to Kurt, possibly more than I’ve related to any other television character. Which is why I was shocked and, quite frankly, a little angry to hear him dismiss my sexuality as something gay guys do when they want to feel “normal” for a change. But it was human, it was a flaw of Kurt’s, and certainly he would throughout the episode (or an arc of episodes, but who are we kidding; this is Glee) accept that Blaine was bisexual or, at the very least, accept that even though Blaine wasn’t bisexual, it was a valid orientation that was fine for him to explore. Instead we get Blaine going, “I am 100% gay” after one kiss with one girl, validating Kurt’s opinion and implying that he was right all along. It doesn’t help that Glee hasn’t had a character actually come out and say, “I’m bisexual” in any episode before or since.
3. Mouthing off to Burt - This is actually one instance where Kurt is widely regarded to have overstepped the line. Burt tried to set some ground rules and Kurt showed attitude, questioning Burt’s reasons for demanding that he not have a boy sleep over without permission. Which is great; a little teenage rebellion does Kurt good, makes him real. Only, what was Kurt’s parting shot? A demand that Burt “educate himself” so that Kurt could go to him with sexual questions. Which does seem like grasping for straws… until we get to Sexy, where Blaine comes to Burt concerned that Kurt knows nothing about gay sex. And neither does Burt, implying that, once again, Kurt was right - Burt is neglecting Kurt’s sexual education, perhaps out of a discomfort with homosexuality.
4. Texting Chandler -Kurt flirts with another boy behind his boyfriend’s back. Because his boyfriend has been ignoring him. And said boyfriend immediately flips out, accusing him of cheating (which is debatable at best) and singing a song to that effect in front of all his friends. This puts Blaine’s flaws (overreaction and attention seeking) at the forefront and heaps so many offenses onto Kurt that we in the fandom leap to his defense “It was only a few text messages!” “Look at Blaine, humiliating his boyfriend like that, how dare he!” And then, as a final nail in the coffin, the writer’s have Blaine cheat a season later, really digging in the message that what Kurt did wasn’t that bad.
5. Ignoring his boyfriend - Again, I completely understand Kurt’s actions here. If I got a job at Disneyland and had a boyfriend back in Provo, I would be very tempted to hang out with my job friends instead of calling him, and might dominate the conversations we do have with talk of me, ignoring the things he wanted to talk to me about. But it still wouldn’t be stellar girlfriend behavior. And if I called him to cancel a phone date, he told me he was missing me and feeling alone, and I hung up on him without any promise to call back so I could listen to gossip - I’d be in the wrong there. If Blaine had had an equal fault in the relationship, the Klaine breakup could have been awesome; two people breaking up because of mutual fault, like real breakups happen. But as RIB have proven time and time again, reality takes a backseat to making sure that Kurt is the victim at every single turn. So they have Blaine cheat, which, besides being the most cliche thing in the history of Glee, absolves Kurt of all guilt. How could missing a few phone calls possibly deserve being cheated on? How dare anyone suggest that Kurt could be even slightly in the wrong?
In fact, the only thing Kurt ever takes responsibility for is the thing that he’s NOT responsible for - Karofsky’s suicide attempt. Apparently you’re required to pick up the phone for the bully who threatened your life, but not for your boyfriend.
And this is my growing problem with the way Kurt’s being written - I still adore him, I still relate to him, but it’s getting harder and harder to relate to someone when the writers can’t let him be wrong. In my life, when I do something wrong, the people I do wrong things to don’t turn around and immediately do something ten times worse to me so I can feel victimized because real life doesn’t work that way. It just doesn’t. And at this point I really need Kurt to wrong someone - anyone - and take full responsibility for it, or I’m going to become convinced that he’s some sort of magical guilt-dodging nymph and not a human being.
Glee has had 2 of their main gays (Kurt, Santana) make biphobic comments. They could have used those opportunities to make a statement about biphobia in the gay community (which is really common), but of course Glee just let it slide like it was no big deal when it was actually quite offensive.
Quinn cheated and got PREGNANT. She was forgiven instantly and got back together with the guy she cheated on. Puck cheated with Quinn knowing that Finn would hate him for it; no one even cared. Finn cheated on Quinn; whatever, Finchel is endgame anyway. Rachel cheated on Finn; whatever. Kurt cheated on Adam and had meaningless sex with his ex-boyfriend; who the hell cares, Kadam should still be together. Blaine cheated? Unforgivable. SERIOUSLY, GLEEKS?
Natalie Dormer + The eyebrow thing
She’s really some sort of malicious fae or something.
Some sort of Sidhe who doesn’t always bother to keep her glamour up.
this guy pulled out his dick in front of like 5 billion feminist protestors holy shit
Some context for the idiots claiming the women are overreacting:
This occurred at a Slut Walk. For those not familiar with it, the Slut Walk is basically a peaceful protest seeking to eliminate the rape apologism so prevalent in society. The basis is that no woman is “asking for it,” with “it” being rape. It’s not a feminist protest; it’s a human rights protest.
Many of the protesters, as you can probably imagine, have dealt with sexual harassment or rape in their own lives. Many of them have structured their daily activities to avoid being raped. The gathering is supposed to be a place for them to feel empowered and able to recover in the company of those who understand what they’ve been through or who will not blame them.
Nobody at a Slut Walk will tell a survivor that it’s her fault. They will not ask what she was wearing to provoke her attacker. Nobody will say she had too much to drink. Nobody will tell the men in the group that they are inherently rapists themselves, and nobody will tell a male survivor that his experience “wasn’t really rape.”
Then, this fellow comes along. He sees this gathering of survivors and their supporters, and to him, it’s a joke. He sees feminazis. He sees girls who are taking “a bit of fun” too seriously. And what does he do? He exposes himself to this group of survivors and supporters - some of whom are, in fact, underage.
He sexually harasses literally hundreds of women in one act. Aside from public indecency, there was cruel intent in his actions. He wanted to make them uncomfortable. He wanted to “put them in their place.” Other photos from this event show him flipping the protesters off and laughing at their anger.
And there are still people defending his actions. There are those who still feel like these women were asking for itand that they deserved to be harassed for trying to claim they weren’t. There are those who feel that women should be taught a lesson this way, and they applaud this man’s actions.
So no, he didn’t pull out his dick in front of feminist protesters. He harassed dozens - if not hundreds - of rape survivors. The reaction to his actions alone outline the purpose of the Slut Walk.
For those of you still doubting whether what he did was wrong (and I do wonder if there’s something wrong with you, if you have doubts), let me give you an analogous situation. Imagine a gathering of black civil rights activists. Imagine Martin Luther King Jr., Malcolm X, Rosa Parks, and all their colleagues gathered together to demonstrate that being black did not make them lesser people. That being black and living in the South did not mean they were “asking” to be the target of hate crimes.
And at this gathering, a white man decides he should teach them a lesson by pointedly hanging a noose from the nearest tree and laughing at their anger. And other white men, laughing along with him, commend him for taking these activists down a peg.
That’s what happened here. It’s not an “OMG, I can’t believe he did that!” moment. It’s an “OMG, there are people who think this is okay” moment. And the fact is, it’s not. It never will be. And that’s the take home message of this ridiculous rant I’ve written up.
And this is why we still need feminism.
this made me cry holy shit
That was hands down one of the most well-written and beautiful responses I have had the pleasure to read. Thank you
"Now that’s what I call a season finale" - Sam
"I can’t watch this show anymore." - Blaine
"Come on, season seven is when it always gets good." - Sam
They were totally watching Glee.
They do look like the Glee credits to
It is glee- Joaquin Sadillo is the top name